Why Feeling Like A Failure Is Something You Need To Unlearn

Your life‘s not a one-size-fits-all checklist that needs to be ticked off.

Michele Lian
3 min readOct 6, 2021

I’m tired.

Tired of how freaking hard we all are on our already worn-out, beaten-down selves.

How we’re not perfect enough.

Not good-looking enough.

Not young enough.

Not old enough.

Not smart enough.

Not talented enough.

Not skinny enough.

Not rich enough.

Not pleasant enough.

Not cool enough.

It’s as if we’re all walking around with our heads hanging in collective shame because we’re ‘not enough’ in one way or another in comparison to a set of arbitrary boxes that our neighbors, corporations and outdated systems have put in place for everyone to fit neatly and nicely into….or else.

Or else we risk being judged, punished or bullied because we just don’t measure up.

And so we go about our jobs, friendships, romantic relationships and lives feeling less than good enough.