How To Change

…and do it with courage, strength and grace.

Michele Lian
4 min readSep 28, 2021

Change can be joyful, refreshing and bring much relief.

It can also be painful, frustrating and unwanted.

Either way, the path leading up to the realization that change is needed is often hard, and the act of changing, even harder.

As creatures of comfort, familiarity and certainty, we lean towards these while avoiding rocking the boat as much as we can.

It doesn’t matter what does the rocking — leaving a relationship, quitting a job, losing weight, changing how you eat, starting an exercise routine, moving to a new place, starting over — it all comes with a considerable amount of inertia that you have to overcome.

It’s this inertia that we meet with avoidance in its many forms.

We make endless justifications for our bad habits.

We go with the flow because it’s easier and doing something new feels too risky and uncomfortable.

We get stuck in a rut of persistent worrying about how a change will affect us.

We keep thinking about making a change and putting it off.

We make excuses about why something won’t work or how we’ll surely fail.

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Michele Lian
Michele Lian

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